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What to Wear: Summer Formal


This is a short lookbook video I made for some ideas on what I would wear to a formal or semi-formal occasion during warmer months. I had some formal events to attend this spring/summer and thought I would share some of the dresses I considered. In the end I chose the two blue ones to wear. The red one is a bit large on me and I may consider adding it for sale on my Poshmark closet. Which one is your favorite?

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Day Trip to Wolffer Estate

This past Easter weekend I took a trip out East to the Hamptons, I thought I’d share some of the video I took, it was a beautiful warm spring day. The skies were clear and the traffic wasn’t so bad.  The drive out there and back was half the fun.  We had planned to go to a few different places, such as the 2 other vineyards out there, and also Shelter Island.  Wolffer Estate was the only vineyard open to visit, and although we did make it out to Shelter Island, there really wasn’t much going on and it was quite difficult to find a spot opened for lunch.  Taking the ferry to the island was pretty interesting, it’s not included in the video though since the Shelter Island trip was pretty uneventful.

Sorry for the quality, i’m still trying to figure out how to maintain the video quality when uploading to YouTube. For some reason iMovie wouldn’t allow me to share to YouTube; anyway, this is just a short little video of the day trip!


Something Here is Not Like The Others…


I am the type of person who likes to relax alone, usually in quiet.  I love being home on my couch, watching tv, on my computer or reading a book. This is my personality, but, there are times were I want to be with friends I want to be out and about.  Over the past year I made it a point to interact more go out plan get togethers and not make excuses to miss events I am invited to… but wait why do I still feel like i’m not really there?  I am out with friends but I feel like I’m hanging out by myself… it’s sort of like i’m there but I am not there.  I watch them talk amongst themselves, whisper to each other, or I feel like I have nothing to add to this conversation, they speak of things I wasn’t involved in…  Inside jokes, things they have done together that I wasn’t there for…

Do any of you ever feel like you are not part of your social groups?  You have friends but you feel sort of disconnected and out of the circle.  I have felt this way since I can remember.  At first I thought maybe it’s because i’m not being friendly or I am actually not attempting to be social with people.  When I say social I mean accepting invitations, talking with them, suggesting plans.  I made the effort, I went out, I went to the get-togethers (even if sometimes I wanted to stay in).  Then I realized, even though I tried speaking to them more, planning brunches, bbq’s, beach trips, I still don’t feel close to anyone.

I think I really realized recently…  even if I participate in activities, I still don’t feel included sort of like the kid that always gets picked last in gym.  I’m not sure why I am overlooked but at least I know now, it’s not because I don’t try to be social; by the way, being social was so tiring sometimes. I understand now that I am just how I am, I won’t try to be something I’m not, some super social butterfly, it’s just not me.  Maybe this makes me come across as rude or uncaring, but hopefully people who take the time to know me, know this is not true.

Somehow as if the universe knew I was seeking answers, I came across some videos and articles about Highly Sensitive people and Indigos.  Now some of you might really think I’m odd, but then; you cannot relate, every one is different and our personalities are different; if you know what i’m talking about then you understand what I mean by this entire post.

Do you know what it means to be a highly sensitive person or an Indigo?  When I say highly sensitive, it doesn’t mean getting your feeling hurt easily, it’s means that you may think or see things in ways others don’t.  One of the videos I  came across was at Shir Levi’s channel: Life as a Highly Sensitive Person  A lot of the things she stated in this video resonate with me, and describe me so well, it also helped me understand a lot of why I feel certain ways sometimes.  I’ve been thinking about this post for a while, and it took me a few months to write and post it, but I felt its something I wanted to share even though it is on a more serious note, I hope that this can help some of you also.


~:: NiteShade ::~


I Was So Annoyed… Then I did My Workout…

Have you guys ever had one of those days, where you had to get something done that you just really didn’t feel like doing?   Last Sunday, I had to mount some hard drives for a new rack server.  10 drives, it was the most tedious task ever, especially since there was all kinds of things wrong with the mounts, some screws were too long, the holes didn’t line up properly; anyway, something that should have taken an hour, took 3 hours.

I felt like I had wasted my Sunday, I didn’t feel like I had done anything productive at all!  I was in a terrible mood and it was already the evening.  I don’t know about you guys, but I like to relax on Sunday evenings and not have to be cooking and cleaning.  I hadn’t prepared any of my meals for the week, or finished all my house chores.  Instead of sitting there and just feeling annoyed that my day was almost over and I hadn’t gotten much done; I went to do my daily workout.  After doing my exercise I felt a lot better, my workouts are pretty short, only about 15-20 minutes.  I think for me as long as I can get my workout in I can have a somewhat productive day it also helps to motivate me to get up off my bum and do stuff.  Are any of you the same?

Exercise helps clear your mind since you have to focus on what you are doing.  Afterwards I felt more energized and motivated to start doing other things.  I was able to prep some quick meals for Monday and Tuesday as well as organize a few things around that house.  I didn’t get everything I needed to do done, but I felt better knowing that I had done at least a little more than I would have if I just sat around feeling annoyed.   How do you try and motivate yourself when you’re having one of those days where you have SO much to do but limited time and you kind of want to relax also?


So Here We Are….

So this is it, the ending of another year (2016) and the beginning of a blog!  I also just sort of organized my YouTube channel.  My channel and my blog are still in their baby stages, so follow me and help them grow into the big strong site and channel they are meant to become =].  I frequently post on Instagram (mostly food, but sometimes other things), you can find the link on this site.

I used to blog constantly, and even write stories… give it up for a few years and here I am, struggling to find some words!  One of the reasons I have gone ahead and created this blog and YouTube channel is to help boost some creativity!  I feel like YouTube, blogging and interacting with many people can help boost your creativity; am I right?  Well I hope to see you around (if there’s anyone out there yet!)!  I wish you all a healthy and happy New Year! Ciao!